Dear Abby: He told me to apologize to a woman in the grocery store and I was embarrassed

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend embarrassed me when he told me to apologize to a woman standing behind him in line at the market. He was about to pay for the groceries when I said I’d run to get an item I had forgotten. It took less than a minute, and the order was still being rung up.

When I went back to include the item, he ordered me loudly to apologize to the woman standing in line behind him. Abby, he was still paying! She wasn’t even in line when I went to get the mustard. Because he was still there, I thought he had told her he was waiting for me.

It’s not the first time he’s done something like this. I don’t think I did anything wrong, and even if I did, he could have told me privately and not made me feel like a misbehaving child. I would feel different if we had left the checkout line, but he hadn’t. I thought he was holding the line for me. -- NOT A CHILD IN FLORIDA

DEAR NOT A CHILD: If there had been a long line, I can understand that running back to fetch the mustard might have caused a serious inconvenience. Because there wasn’t, your boyfriend should not have embarrassed you the way he did. Since it wasn’t the first time he has done something like this, assume that he derives satisfaction from doing it. Think hard about whether you really want a future with a partner like him. (I know I wouldn’t.)

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